At an age where things in our lives are constantly changing it can be difficult to plan things in advance. Which can be a problem for Type A people (like myself) who feel the need to plan everything out for weeks and months in advance. So you can imagine the complete meltdown that occurred when my boyfriend announced last minute that he would be committing to a school six hours away from home. Realizing that my whole life was about to change was not something I had been anticipating after seeing each other at least three times a week for majority of our relationship.
Fast forward to nine months later and I can proudly say that we're managing just fine with the distance. Dare I say it has even strengthened our relationship?? With that being said, here are some tips that I have learned over our first semester of distance.
1. Plan visits in advance: This seems like a no brainer for my fellow planning obsessed followers. There is nothing better than having something to look forward to, especially when you're looking forward to seeing your favorite person. Speaking of visits...
2. Plan something special to do when you're together: If you have enough time between hockey games/practices/team events plan something special for you two to do together. That way you have something to look back on and remember once your trip is over and you get to spend quality time alone together for awhile.
3. Stay connected: Texting, calling, Skype, FaceTime anything that will keep you two connected when you're apart will help. My boyfriend and I try to Skype each other once a week and we always text (when we can) throughout the day and night. Plan Skype/facetime dates or create a regular phone call schedule so you aren't feeling out of sync with one another.
4. Trust and Communication: Trust and communication are imperative for an LDR to thrive. If you're upset about something then you need to be vocal about it otherwise the problems will just build up. Communication is key. With that being said, it's just as important to trust your significant other. We all know puck sluts are the worst creatures to roam the earth, but you shouldn't be concerned about them because your boyfriend probably hates them just as much as you do.
5. Positivity: Lastly, being optimistic and positive about your LDR is the best piece of advice I could offer. It's so easy to get upset about how far apart you are, or how much you miss him, but remember that LDRs will not last forever. The distance is merely an obstacle for you to get through, and you will get through it.
And remember… "Distance gives us a reason to love harder"